I was watching a video by a famous coach (so much inspiration by coaches from other industries!). I keep looking at ways to improve and work on my own self-development.
If the title caught your attention, it means that you are willing to elevate your language learning and avoid “isolearning” (which might make the current self-isolation due to lockdown even worse). I am just about to share some life changing tips (as it was for me, I very much care for this to happen to you).
Firstly, the key difference between a fixed mindset and growth mindset.
“In a growth mindset people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work- brains and talent are just a starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment” (Dweck, 2015). The American psychologist also covers the topic in a brilliant TED Talk.
If you feel you live the language learning process in a fixed mind-set, you perhaps do not feel there is a chance for you to make any progress. In this case, it might be very difficult and frustrating to improve.
Imagine talking to yourself like “I am a real failure”, “I can’t pronounce that word” “Nobody will ever understands me when I speak”. In other words, you are sabotaging your language learning, letting your inner critique take over.
On the other hand following a growth mindset, you might well be more open and curious to the whole process and work on those blocks. You can then create the life that you want (move to a different country, travel and speak with confidence, enjoy meetings in a foreign language).
The positive aspect is that, if you are here, you do want to invest in yourself! So, worth reading until the end of this article.
That is exactly what I did back at school myself when learning languages (after feeling stuck in a rut). Living in a state of believing, trusting and allowing can be instead, truly transformative. It is certainly a matter of changing habits (I strongly recommend the book by G. Toleikite, “Why the f* can’t they change?”)
And now, the second crucial change in the mentality when approaching language learning.
When talking about language, the brain is extremely responsive to the way you talk to it. Words of affirmation are in fact very key to create the life that you want and overcome false beliefs, fear of making mistakes. Inner dialogue can be very powerful and generates your faith and very own reality. It is therefore beneficial to shift in a positive direction. Yes, law of attraction springs to mind immediately.
A journal really helps to create a space for gratitude and create the positive from the positive (remember, what you resist, persists!) This creates more awareness and really makes you understand how come you always feel so low. Try it for one week. Not easy, but I can assure you, your language learning will benefit from this INSTANTLY! I am really keen to hear about the results!
Finally, mindset number 3.
It is really about the intention you set. Even starting the day by setting the intention for an emotion (“Think it, feel it, be it!”). As human beings we need a sense of purpose, we need to feel we are working towards a goal. At the end, you will really be able to decide if you achieved that goal where you are at and chunk it down into more achievable steps (and, make sure you celebrate and reward yourself for every success!).
As previously mentioned, there were times of my life where I completely sabotaged my success by feeling stuck and not being able to go through, so, I can really understand what you are going through!
It is a non-stop process, but you will feel differently as soon as you see some results coming in, I promise you!
To summarise :
– Growth mindset
– Negative language
– Setting an intention
A Neurolanguage Coach® is very keen to provide the right reward with feedback when progress is made or a goal is achieved. Working with a supportive Neurolanguage Coach® really makes a difference!
I look forward to work with you!
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